Not Nervous Anymore, Here Are 4 Tips On First Dating For Introverts

 The first date with a crush is a moment to look forward to. However, it can also be daunting or even challenging, especially for an introvert. Dating can be a tiring and energy-draining activity for introverts.

There are many worries that go through the mind of an introvert on a first date. Starting from making a first impression, making sure the chat goes well, to choosing a date place.

Eits, but no need to panic! There are a few tips you can follow for a memorable first date. What are the tips? Come on, find out!

Be yourself

First thing first, make sure you always be yourself! It's inevitable that you want to make a good first impression on your crush, but don't let yourself not be yourself and pretend to be someone else.

An introvert tends to be less interested in flirting, and this can actually be an advantage sometimes, you know. Because you will give the impression of being sincere, more trustworthy, and reliable. So, no need to hide who you are!

Choose a Fun Type of Dating

Understand what types of dates can make you not close and comfortable to talk about things. According to Dr. Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Professor Emerita of Psychological and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts, Amherst, goes on a date to a concert that isn't a good choice for introverts.

"Anything that's too noisy and distracting will only make an introvert shut down more," he said.

However, if choosing to go to a quiet restaurant or cafe with your crush makes it difficult to talk, you might choose a date that involves activity and discussion, such as reading or watching a comedy show. This is because these activities can be used as discussion material afterward.

One thing is for sure, choose an activity that makes you comfortable!

Prepare Chat Topics

If you're really worried about running out of topics to talk about, it's a good idea to prepare a list of topics to talk about before dating your crush. You can choose topics that you two often talk about and ask open-ended questions.

Topics that trigger small talk can also help you and your crush get comfortable with each other before moving on to deeper conversations. In short, there's no need to hesitate to make small talk, even if you may not like it that much.

Focus Listening

Listening well is a skill that introverts naturally possess. Take full advantage of this ability to build empathy and a more meaningful relationship with your crush.

Don't forget to make eye contact and show that you are really listening to the other person seriously in the conversation. Occasionally give a response on the sidelines of a conversation, for example, such as nodding. This will make your crush feel comfortable and know that he or she is being really listened to.

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